Acquire a Mentor to Reach Your Dreams

A part of the goal-setting process that many people struggle with is creating action plans. One way to conquer this obstacle before it even arises is to get a mentor. I’ve had many–I can’t imagine being as successful as I have been without my mentors guiding me.

Identify Your Role Model

If you’ve always wanted to be a professional juggler, but have no idea of where to start with your action plan, find information about a successful professional juggler or two in your area. They will be your role models. There’s someone who dominates in every field, so you always have access to people who are excelling at something at which you would like to excel. Find out what they do and how they do it, then copy what you need, making it your own by adding your own personal twist or genius to it.

Don’t be afraid to ask–after all, imagine how flattered you would feel if someone asked you to be a mentor (and when you start accomplishing your goals, someone might just do that)!

Asking for a Mentor

Once you’ve identified some role models and selected one whom you would like as a mentor, you ask him or her. It’s that simple. “Would you be willing to mentor me?”

Of course, you should let your mentor know why such a relationship would benefit him or her, as well. Make sure you propose to meet at his or her office, and volunteer your talents in some way, such as aiding with a pet project, so that you are helping in return. If you’ve done enough research on your prospective mentor, you should be able to come up with a creative way to help him or her that also demonstrates your familiarity with their work.

Following is a sample conversation you can alter to suit your own personality.

“I want to accomplish ____________, and I respect the results you’ve produced in your life. Would you be willing to help by meeting with me once a week so I can learn from your achievements? I’d like to make it worth your while by ____________. Does a mentor relationship with me sound like something you’d enjoy?”

Don’t rush this process, and make sure you have a few back-up role models to ask in case your first choice(s) are too busy to help.

John

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Comments

  1. This “Following Your Dream” advice really hits close to home! My dream of owning my very own Yoga Studio one day has inspired me to create a Community based on the teachings of “My Spiritual Mentor” Dr. Deepak Chopra. I’m using a section for Advertising Space and hopefully one day it will become provide the extra income needed to see this dream come true. Thanks John for this beautiful post!

    Hugs, Lily
    http://www.thechopracommunity.org

  2. This “Following Your Dream” advice really hits close to home! My dream of owning my very own Yoga Studio one day has inspired me to create a Community based on the teachings of “My Spiritual Mentor” Dr. Deepak Chopra. I’m using a section for Advertising Space and hopefully one day it will become provide the extra income needed to see this dream come true. Thanks John for this beautiful post!

    Hugs, Lily
    http://www.thechopracommunity.org

  3. OK John so should I just come out and ask you, I really can’t think of anyone else. My chosen profession doesn’t really leave me open to a lot of mentors. How do I make you my mentor?

  4. OK John so should I just come out and ask you, I really can’t think of anyone else. My chosen profession doesn’t really leave me open to a lot of mentors. How do I make you my mentor?

  5. Ive read having it all and have to keep going back because its always serves for the refrence point” for that right now obstacle(s)that may be blocking thats blocking your next insprired action towards your Dreams.

  6. Ive read having it all and have to keep going back because its always serves for the refrence point” for that right now obstacle(s)that may be blocking thats blocking your next insprired action towards your Dreams.

  7. Hi Lily,

    Congratulations: You have taken the first step to realise your future.

    In addition to the dream, which remains so if nothing is done, is to create your vision and take action, with a real drive and determination.

    Nothing will occur if you do not consciously step out and grasp opportunities as they arise. It is called affirmative action.

    If you stand on the side of the road with your brief case open, it won’t fill with money and opportunities unless you do something to make it happen.

    You have taken the steps necessary and remember that any positive action is a step forward and never look back with regret. The view is always clearer, brighter and more colourful from the front.

    Everything happens for a reason and with your wonderful mindset, you are making things happen in your life. Be proud of yourself and the direction in which you’re travelling.

    I look forward to your successes in the very near future.

    Well done,

    Kieran

  8. Hi Lily,

    Congratulations: You have taken the first step to realise your future.

    In addition to the dream, which remains so if nothing is done, is to create your vision and take action, with a real drive and determination.

    Nothing will occur if you do not consciously step out and grasp opportunities as they arise. It is called affirmative action.

    If you stand on the side of the road with your brief case open, it won’t fill with money and opportunities unless you do something to make it happen.

    You have taken the steps necessary and remember that any positive action is a step forward and never look back with regret. The view is always clearer, brighter and more colourful from the front.

    Everything happens for a reason and with your wonderful mindset, you are making things happen in your life. Be proud of yourself and the direction in which you’re travelling.

    I look forward to your successes in the very near future.

    Well done,

    Kieran

  9. Great post John!

    Having someone teach you from their own experiences is great.

    Scott, use the Power of Intention if you want John as your mentor. Visualize, meditate on it and take inspired action to attract everything you intend to create in your life.

    John is an incredible mentor, most congruent person I have ever met.

    Ryan
    http://www.evolvedtrader.com/

  10. Great post John!

    Having someone teach you from their own experiences is great.

    Scott, use the Power of Intention if you want John as your mentor. Visualize, meditate on it and take inspired action to attract everything you intend to create in your life.

    John is an incredible mentor, most congruent person I have ever met.

    Ryan
    http://www.evolvedtrader.com/

  11. Thank you Kieran for your beautiful reply! I have never met any of my Mentors, rather I do what I call “Silent Mentoring” where I pledged to myself to study, learn and grow from all the wonderful teachings of my Mentors. Every area I want to improve in i’ve selected a silent Mentor and i’m happy to say John is my Life Coach!

    Hugs Lily

  12. Thank you Kieran for your beautiful reply! I have never met any of my Mentors, rather I do what I call “Silent Mentoring” where I pledged to myself to study, learn and grow from all the wonderful teachings of my Mentors. Every area I want to improve in i’ve selected a silent Mentor and i’m happy to say John is my Life Coach!

    Hugs Lily

  13. Hi Lily,

    We all do that very thing each and every day without thinking. We draw strength and courage from those in whom we have a great deal of faith and from whom we seek guidance.

    You are doing everything right and making great strides forward. Continue to visualise and your mentor will materialise when the time is right.

    Life has a great way of coming together when we have the gratitude in our hearts and the drive, passion and vision to do great things.

    Congratulations again.

    Kieran

  14. Hi Lily,

    We all do that very thing each and every day without thinking. We draw strength and courage from those in whom we have a great deal of faith and from whom we seek guidance.

    You are doing everything right and making great strides forward. Continue to visualise and your mentor will materialise when the time is right.

    Life has a great way of coming together when we have the gratitude in our hearts and the drive, passion and vision to do great things.

    Congratulations again.

    Kieran

  15. Yes… maybe we’ll all get together for a round of golf.

    Hugs Lily

  16. Yes… maybe we’ll all get together for a round of golf.

    Hugs Lily

  17. Eugenia says:

    Thank you very much for this article. I have attracted it to my life in a moment when I was thinking whether it was a good idea to ask my role model if he would be my mentor. This has helped me make my mind. I am writing to him right now.

  18. Hi John,

    I am not sure if you will even read this. For a few years now I have been asking others to help. I have read and heard many of you teach to “Ask” so I have been. Only to keep getting the door closed in my face. I even found out what others need and I offer and do that first before I ask and still nothing. Everyone into days world is busy and too busy to take on another person. So are you willing to give me a few minutes of your time? I will in return help others who come to me for I know what it feels like to not have someone to help you. I will use my voice to raise others in spirit and higher consciousness. And, I will personally find out what you need and offer it to you.

    Much love and light
    Carol

  19. Hi John,

    I am not sure if you will even read this. For a few years now I have been asking others to help. I have read and heard many of you teach to “Ask” so I have been. Only to keep getting the door closed in my face. I even found out what others need and I offer and do that first before I ask and still nothing. Everyone into days world is busy and too busy to take on another person. So are you willing to give me a few minutes of your time? I will in return help others who come to me for I know what it feels like to not have someone to help you. I will use my voice to raise others in spirit and higher consciousness. And, I will personally find out what you need and offer it to you.

    Much love and light
    Carol

  20. Hi Carol,

    You’re not the only one who has had the door shut in your face and so, I understand your frustration at the constant and seemingly never ending, ‘No’!

    I have written several manuscripts, film scripts, television concepts and more recently, a proposal for a tv program for young people (with disabilities and who are disadvantaged). I am having difficulty obtaining support, although some of the many international speakers I’ve approached have kindly provided encouraging letters. They are Brian Tracy, Bob Proctor and Jim Stovall at the present time, whilst others whom I thought according to their teachings would say yes, have not been interested. Some have even wanted me to sign up to programs before they would look at the material (no names and no pack drill).

    You have to believe in what you’re doing and have a clear picture of what you want from your life.

    As difficult as it is, continue to be upbeat and focused. You must visualise meeting and talking with the person from whom you seek the assistance and I know from personal experience, it will happen.

    You must understand that for success to rise up to meet you, it is imperative you believe in what you’re doing and know beyond question it will happen just as you see it.

    If you stand on the side of the road with your mouth open, the air won’t simply jump into your lungs unassisted and sustain life. You must breath and that’s the catalyst for an incredible future.

    Those breaths are the actions necessary to give life, colour and clarity to your wonderful future. If you take the necessary action and are focused and determined, it will happen.

    You have to believe in yourself and your life and build a very strong and supported plan of action. There really is nothing you can’t achieve. Setbacks will occur and obstacles will rise up to meet you. They are simply guide posts, which come into your life as a means to push you in the right direction and as difficult as it might seem, you must remain focused and driven and you will begin to see your future in all its clarity.

    Believe you can and you will: Entertain the thought that you can’t and you won’t. It’s as simple as that.

    Take care and I know we all have faith in you and await your successes.

    Kind regards,

    Kieran

  21. Hi Carol,

    You’re not the only one who has had the door shut in your face and so, I understand your frustration at the constant and seemingly never ending, ‘No’!

    I have written several manuscripts, film scripts, television concepts and more recently, a proposal for a tv program for young people (with disabilities and who are disadvantaged). I am having difficulty obtaining support, although some of the many international speakers I’ve approached have kindly provided encouraging letters. They are Brian Tracy, Bob Proctor and Jim Stovall at the present time, whilst others whom I thought according to their teachings would say yes, have not been interested. Some have even wanted me to sign up to programs before they would look at the material (no names and no pack drill).

    You have to believe in what you’re doing and have a clear picture of what you want from your life.

    As difficult as it is, continue to be upbeat and focused. You must visualise meeting and talking with the person from whom you seek the assistance and I know from personal experience, it will happen.

    You must understand that for success to rise up to meet you, it is imperative you believe in what you’re doing and know beyond question it will happen just as you see it.

    If you stand on the side of the road with your mouth open, the air won’t simply jump into your lungs unassisted and sustain life. You must breath and that’s the catalyst for an incredible future.

    Those breaths are the actions necessary to give life, colour and clarity to your wonderful future. If you take the necessary action and are focused and determined, it will happen.

    You have to believe in yourself and your life and build a very strong and supported plan of action. There really is nothing you can’t achieve. Setbacks will occur and obstacles will rise up to meet you. They are simply guide posts, which come into your life as a means to push you in the right direction and as difficult as it might seem, you must remain focused and driven and you will begin to see your future in all its clarity.

    Believe you can and you will: Entertain the thought that you can’t and you won’t. It’s as simple as that.

    Take care and I know we all have faith in you and await your successes.

    Kind regards,

    Kieran