Is the Las Vegas Syndrome hurting you?

One night I was channel surfing looking for something intelligent to watch on TV.

After several full rotations and Maria begging me to stop, I decided to stop at a station airing a Vegas poker tournament.

I know what you are thinking, however, on the TV screen I watched the commentators discuss whose odds were better than whose and why. Their in-depth analysis was amazing, especially since I didn’t realize how much you really needed to understand about the game if you were a serious player.

I was fascinated that even though 5 players were in the game, the announcers knew who had the best chance of winning after each card was dealt. They knew by the exact percentage point what the odds were of winning.

The cards dealt were totally random, yet each card altered the game by only one of two ways.

The first was obvious and could easily be seen because they showed them to you and discussed them to help you understand what was going on.

The second card however, was totally up to the players. Once they understood the cards on the table they could do whatever they wanted. They could do nothing and wait, they could up the ante, they could bluff, etc.

In any case, the player with the best hand who understood when to bet, when to bluff and how to calculate the odds usually did the best. This should not be a surprise.

What this made me think of is why do so many people go to Vegas unprepared in understanding the real odds of winning if they really want to win?

I think most people would like to win but expect to lose. If they really wanted to win, wouldn’t they become more talented and educated? I know I had a wake-up call because I have lost tens of thousands of dollars at the tables and each time my excuse was “I’m just having fun” or “How do you think they build these places”. I was justifying why I was losing even before I got to the tables!

The point I’m trying to make is this… what is your REAL attitude about making more money, having better health or having a better relationship?

Do you really want to do better to but never expect to?

It’s a question worth asking and worth pondering because it’s the truth. A lot of people hope and pray but never really believe that they can.

Please accept this post as my way of suggesting that you and I should hope and pray and expect to achieve everything we want.

Let’s not ask “if I can”, instead let’s start to ask “how I can”.

Create a magical life because you deserve it!

John

 

Comments

  1. I like your blogs – they are intelligent and informative- However, I have not ordered your products because I have tried asking a few questions – writing an email – and I never received any response at all.
    I have a rule in my lief – I do not buy products from people cannot communicate with. I onceordered a book from Amazon.com. There was a mistake, I was overcharged and I could not sort it out – since you CANNOT communicate with them, contact them.I have never bought any book thru them since.
    Anyway – just another attemps at communicating with you. Thanks for the intresting articles
    S

  2. I like your blogs – they are intelligent and informative- However, I have not ordered your products because I have tried asking a few questions – writing an email – and I never received any response at all.
    I have a rule in my lief – I do not buy products from people cannot communicate with. I onceordered a book from Amazon.com. There was a mistake, I was overcharged and I could not sort it out – since you CANNOT communicate with them, contact them.I have never bought any book thru them since.
    Anyway – just another attemps at communicating with you. Thanks for the intresting articles
    S

  3. John,
    I completely agree. you’ll never win at anything if you don’t expect to.
    It’s also important to plan to win. Several years ago I became interested in greyhound racing. After going, and placing mostly losing bets several times, I decided to find out how some people win more than they lose.
    I spent several hours learning what’s important in “handicapping” a dog race. After a few times experimenting, I got to the point where my wife and I could almost always go to the dog races for no cost and, usually, come home with a little more money than we went with.
    My point is – it’s not only important to expect to win – it’s also important to learn how to win and plan to win.
    Duane

  4. So true, so true! How many times do we hear people say “I’d like to, but…”. In “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” Robert Kiyosaki tells of the time Rich Dad gave him a bollocking* for saying the fateful words “I can’t afford it.” One must always ASK “How can I afford it?” *Bollocking = English slang for being severely admonished! Luv Ya All, Justin

  5. So true, so true! How many times do we hear people say “I’d like to, but…”. In “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” Robert Kiyosaki tells of the time Rich Dad gave him a bollocking* for saying the fateful words “I can’t afford it.” One must always ASK “How can I afford it?” *Bollocking = English slang for being severely admonished! Luv Ya All, Justin

  6. John,
    Another great blog! You’re absolutely right you must have “faith” in yourself and the right attitude….Using you’re principles, I’m a success story in the making. I can’t wait until you use my story in one of your books! I’ll definitely mention you in mine!

  7. John,
    Another great blog! You’re absolutely right you must have “faith” in yourself and the right attitude….Using you’re principles, I’m a success story in the making. I can’t wait until you use my story in one of your books! I’ll definitely mention you in mine!

  8. I very poignant reminder for me as my first husband gambled everything we had away to our ruin. Even managed to drain my own bank account.

    I live in the UK now and I’m constantly bombarded with people who say ‘I can’t afford’, ‘I can’t do that’ or ‘I’m not able to’. We need to change that attitude with great haste!!

    Last year (before I started at OneCoach but after read John’s book) I desperately wanted to travel to Germany for Christmas. No money and now idea how. Well I changed my attitude and I went to Germany with money I received at the last minute, after I booked the tickets.

    Now I’m blissfully happy (with a new husband) and a very prosperous outlook for my future thanks to John and the OneCoach team who have reminded me, perhaps what I already new, but now I say ‘how can I’ rather than ‘I can’t because…’.

    Now working on how we can go skiing in Austria in January!

    Thanks John.

  9. John,
    Dead on and honest as always. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and your human side with us. Definately helps me to see me more clearly!

  10. John,
    Dead on and honest as always. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and your human side with us. Definately helps me to see me more clearly!

  11. thanks john,intresting,the big question for me is how do i,i know i can and i will but how.keep up the good work joe

  12. I thought that it wasn’t the ‘How’ questions, but the ‘Why’ questions that were important. If you want it badly enough, have clarity and give value the ‘how’ should look after itself!

  13. I thought that it wasn’t the ‘How’ questions, but the ‘Why’ questions that were important. If you want it badly enough, have clarity and give value the ‘how’ should look after itself!

  14. The message I take from this story is that if you go in to the game casually you will get burned.
    However if you go in with intent and belief in your purpose and having first asked some great questions, you will have positioned yourself to win.

    Graeme

  15. I agree,that’s the fact, I am processing to understand and absorb it. I can do it

  16. I agree,that’s the fact, I am processing to understand and absorb it. I can do it

  17. It’s all about the “I can attitude”. Thanks for always sharing with the team.

  18. It’s all about the “I can attitude”. Thanks for always sharing with the team.

  19. Wow! I found this post EXTREMELY ironic considering just yesterday I decided I was going to Vegas for New Years! Great post buddy!

  20. Wow! I found this post EXTREMELY ironic considering just yesterday I decided I was going to Vegas for New Years! Great post buddy!

  21. Maryam Ismail says:

    You are absolutely right, John. All of the people that miss the mark do so by PLANNING & AIMING for the next best by ASSUMING that could never achieve their target.

  22. Maryam Ismail says:

    You are absolutely right, John. All of the people that miss the mark do so by PLANNING & AIMING for the next best by ASSUMING that could never achieve their target.

  23. Hey John,

    Having read Sybille’s post, I wholeheartedly agree with her comment. It’s one thing to have a website where various products are offered for sale. They may be incredibly good and give enlightenment to the user: However, should there come a time when a subscriber needs answers to some pressing questions, there should always be someone (preferably the owner of the site) available to answer those queries.

    I too have forwarded several questions to you on a range of issues, which have gone unanswered. It isn’t a great way to make an impression on those whose support you seek through the purchase of products and the posting of blogs. It is a matter of give and take – trust me.

    I do agree with Sybille on the nature and quality of your blogs.

    I appreciate the food for thought.

    Cheers,

    Kieran

  24. Hey John,

    Having read Sybille’s post, I wholeheartedly agree with her comment. It’s one thing to have a website where various products are offered for sale. They may be incredibly good and give enlightenment to the user: However, should there come a time when a subscriber needs answers to some pressing questions, there should always be someone (preferably the owner of the site) available to answer those queries.

    I too have forwarded several questions to you on a range of issues, which have gone unanswered. It isn’t a great way to make an impression on those whose support you seek through the purchase of products and the posting of blogs. It is a matter of give and take – trust me.

    I do agree with Sybille on the nature and quality of your blogs.

    I appreciate the food for thought.

    Cheers,

    Kieran

  25. John Assaraf says:

    Ok, I hear you load and clear about answering your questions- the challenge is that between getting 300 emails a day I miss many of the questions on the blogs. I will figure out a way to get the questions and replying in a timely fashion. Thanks for your open feedback and glad you like the posts

  26. John Assaraf says:

    Ok, I hear you load and clear about answering your questions- the challenge is that between getting 300 emails a day I miss many of the questions on the blogs. I will figure out a way to get the questions and replying in a timely fashion. Thanks for your open feedback and glad you like the posts

  27. Thanks for your blog John, i also asked questions without answers, but i would like to help by suggesting a FAQ on your web site, you must have repeated questions receiving 300 emails a day, i ordered your book and cannot wait to read it! Keep up the great things your doing…
    Have a great day
    Igor

  28. Thanks for your blog John, i also asked questions without answers, but i would like to help by suggesting a FAQ on your web site, you must have repeated questions receiving 300 emails a day, i ordered your book and cannot wait to read it! Keep up the great things your doing…
    Have a great day
    Igor

  29. John,

    THANK YOU SO MUCH for an AMAZING day at your seminar yesterday in Israel…
    people at my website are just “recovering” from a life changing event…thank you for sharing your heart with us…you are the best!

    Here’s a photo from yesterday: http://www.hasod.co.il/images/John_seminar.jpg

    with Gratitude
    Alex Ziv
    Israel

  30. I hope people reading this will understand how important your statement: “It’s a question worth asking and worth pondering because it’s the truth. A lot of people hope and pray but never really believe that they can.” is.

    I am living proof. I’m obese, but I never went on diets because I never really felt that I could change my eating habits [I liked food to much] so I just kept overeating for 65 years. That is I did until I read and took “The Passion Test” by Janet and Chris Atwood. It caused me to change my lifetime eating habits overnight, that was 10 months ago and I have a LARGE start on my way down to being normal. I just hope your readers REALLY get your point and not just read it, say “yeh, that’s me” and keep going as before but really believe they can change; because we all can.

  31. WOW! I just came back from Vegas, I usually come out even, I do not win much but I don’t loose much either.But I also was always thinking I was there just for fun and (unconciously)expecting to loose what I brought to “play”.
    Thanks for the blog
    Diana

  32. WOW! I just came back from Vegas, I usually come out even, I do not win much but I don’t loose much either.But I also was always thinking I was there just for fun and (unconciously)expecting to loose what I brought to “play”.
    Thanks for the blog
    Diana

  33. “If they really wanted to win, wouldn’t they become more talented and educated?” I think you hit the nail on head with this statment.

    I just recieved your book in the post, Thank you.

  34. “If they really wanted to win, wouldn’t they become more talented and educated?” I think you hit the nail on head with this statment.

    I just recieved your book in the post, Thank you.

  35. retired620 says:

    Hi John, I love going to Vegas. Any casino for that matter, I used to think it was an adiction but have found that I can take it or leave it, I plan the trip ahead of time and have that to look forward to. I win some, loose more, the process is what is fun to me. I usually go with fun people and we all have fun. I know when to “hold um” like my late father used to say. My life is a wonderful one, I live in abundance, I am a very positive person. I love my life. I know I deserve the best there is to get, I’ve found that money is an energy, you have to spend some to get more, the universe is awsome that way.

  36. retired620 says:

    Hi John, I love going to Vegas. Any casino for that matter, I used to think it was an adiction but have found that I can take it or leave it, I plan the trip ahead of time and have that to look forward to. I win some, loose more, the process is what is fun to me. I usually go with fun people and we all have fun. I know when to “hold um” like my late father used to say. My life is a wonderful one, I live in abundance, I am a very positive person. I love my life. I know I deserve the best there is to get, I’ve found that money is an energy, you have to spend some to get more, the universe is awsome that way.

  37. Ryan Yokome says:

    Hey John,

    Great blog post. I actually didnt know you had time to watch tv. lol. 🙂
    As you know I DayTrade commodiites which is in exact correlation with Poker. John, in noticed you said, “If they really wanted to win, wouldn’t they become more talented and educated?”
    That is true in life, but a trap when it comes to trading or gambling. The primary reason is that both games have complete random outcomes. Each and every trade or game will be different from the last. In order for the outcome to be exactly the same as before, you would need the same people with with each of their belief systems to create the exact outcome. Which is impossible. So you can see how both games have complete random outcomes.
    So more education will just continue to made decisions based on what has happened in the past. (even though you still need to hone your skills)
    As you know are brains see patterns and images and link what we see in the physical world to our past circumstances, giving us our level of awareness and emotions in the present moment.
    The key for consistant success is to have an edge (applied knowledge) and trade or gamble that edge without emotion getting in the way. Hence, always following your edge faithfully.
    You have to treat every moment in the game as unique and different from the last. Once this mindset becomes a belief your brain can not send signals of doubts, fear and anxiety because it cant link any previous emotional experience to the present moment.(an example of being wrong or losing money will trigure us to lose focus of the present moment)
    Hence, allowing yourself to complety raise your level of awareness and not interpreting the evidence as threatening. Letting you consistanly reap the rewards and trade your edge to the fullest over the other players because, now the odds are in your favour.
    You will now have a clear mind with a high level of awareness.

    Thanks
    Ryan

  38. Ryan Yokome says:

    Hey John,

    Great blog post. I actually didnt know you had time to watch tv. lol. 🙂
    As you know I DayTrade commodiites which is in exact correlation with Poker. John, in noticed you said, “If they really wanted to win, wouldn’t they become more talented and educated?”
    That is true in life, but a trap when it comes to trading or gambling. The primary reason is that both games have complete random outcomes. Each and every trade or game will be different from the last. In order for the outcome to be exactly the same as before, you would need the same people with with each of their belief systems to create the exact outcome. Which is impossible. So you can see how both games have complete random outcomes.
    So more education will just continue to made decisions based on what has happened in the past. (even though you still need to hone your skills)
    As you know are brains see patterns and images and link what we see in the physical world to our past circumstances, giving us our level of awareness and emotions in the present moment.
    The key for consistant success is to have an edge (applied knowledge) and trade or gamble that edge without emotion getting in the way. Hence, always following your edge faithfully.
    You have to treat every moment in the game as unique and different from the last. Once this mindset becomes a belief your brain can not send signals of doubts, fear and anxiety because it cant link any previous emotional experience to the present moment.(an example of being wrong or losing money will trigure us to lose focus of the present moment)
    Hence, allowing yourself to complety raise your level of awareness and not interpreting the evidence as threatening. Letting you consistanly reap the rewards and trade your edge to the fullest over the other players because, now the odds are in your favour.
    You will now have a clear mind with a high level of awareness.

    Thanks
    Ryan

  39. Making excuses about negative outcomes has been a habit of mine. Now I make sure to know what I am getting into before hand and utilizing tools at my disposal to gain the upper hand. Thanks for the blog John. Happy Holidays to You, Maria and the Kiddos.

  40. Making excuses about negative outcomes has been a habit of mine. Now I make sure to know what I am getting into before hand and utilizing tools at my disposal to gain the upper hand. Thanks for the blog John. Happy Holidays to You, Maria and the Kiddos.

  41. Dear John,
    How about ‘The Secret’ tell us: focus on what we want,believe and feel we already have it.If we want something and investigate on strategy to achieve it, is it part of the universe guide us to get what we want?

    Btw, by using LOA, I believe that you will give presentation and share your expertise in Indonesia really soon…

    with warmest regard,
    Martini

  42. Nicole Barkai says:

    Hi John!
    I want to thank you for the brilliant seminar on Monday! I enjoyed it so much! Before the lunch break I had a few questions I wanted to ask you, but then during the afternoon you answered all of them! I especially appreciate the useful tools you gave us, which was my main aim for the seminar. I am working diligently on my work sheets, and am loving every moment of it!
    So once again, thank you! You are the best!

  43. Nicole Barkai says:

    Hi John!
    I want to thank you for the brilliant seminar on Monday! I enjoyed it so much! Before the lunch break I had a few questions I wanted to ask you, but then during the afternoon you answered all of them! I especially appreciate the useful tools you gave us, which was my main aim for the seminar. I am working diligently on my work sheets, and am loving every moment of it!
    So once again, thank you! You are the best!

  44. Karin Hiebert says:

    John,
    As usual, a great post!
    You continue to provide us with great value, and content!
    Just to add to the comments above in regards to geting a hold of you, or anyone in your office has NEVER been an issue for me, so I am not sure why these few people are having a difficult time with their questions, or concerns regarding info from your company.
    Next event you have John, And you would like to have a World Champion hair stylist on hand, please contact me! I would love to give you my services!
    Karin Hiebert

  45. Karin Hiebert says:

    John,
    As usual, a great post!
    You continue to provide us with great value, and content!
    Just to add to the comments above in regards to geting a hold of you, or anyone in your office has NEVER been an issue for me, so I am not sure why these few people are having a difficult time with their questions, or concerns regarding info from your company.
    Next event you have John, And you would like to have a World Champion hair stylist on hand, please contact me! I would love to give you my services!
    Karin Hiebert

  46. hi john
    you are winer.so you have many solger in around the world.thank
    you for …. i can not have leave realy but whene you going evreywhere all of us coming with you by yourself you have big
    soul.have nice holiday.i will travel with you in my mind
    and save money at my job dont loos anything
    if be intelligent.
    omid

  47. hi john
    you are winer.so you have many solger in around the world.thank
    you for …. i can not have leave realy but whene you going evreywhere all of us coming with you by yourself you have big
    soul.have nice holiday.i will travel with you in my mind
    and save money at my job dont loos anything
    if be intelligent.
    omid

  48. I like this very much. I had already realized that when after several times buying lottery y haven’t got any prize. I was thinking about what was wrong in my way of buying the bills and I realized that as most of people I was playing lottery but I’m not thinking of winning it. One day I changed my thought to “what I want is to win is 200,000 pesos, not the first place with millions of pesos before this month is over”. So I started buying with this thought everyday and one or two days after the month was over, I got 1,000 pesos, much less than 200,000 pesos but much more than any prize I received. Then I thought that I had to repeat that thought but using more faith. But my point here is that I got a prize greater than any prize I had got as a consecuence of thinking I was going to win if I played.

  49. I like this very much. I had already realized that when after several times buying lottery y haven’t got any prize. I was thinking about what was wrong in my way of buying the bills and I realized that as most of people I was playing lottery but I’m not thinking of winning it. One day I changed my thought to “what I want is to win is 200,000 pesos, not the first place with millions of pesos before this month is over”. So I started buying with this thought everyday and one or two days after the month was over, I got 1,000 pesos, much less than 200,000 pesos but much more than any prize I received. Then I thought that I had to repeat that thought but using more faith. But my point here is that I got a prize greater than any prize I had got as a consecuence of thinking I was going to win if I played.