Love It or Hate It

Have you ever noticed how there are about as many reactions to an experience on a roller coaster as there are people? One loves it and another is petrified. One is yelling “Woohoo!” and the other is screaming “Oh, no!” One could end up with a belief that roller coasters are scary, while the other person could end up with a belief that roller coasters are exhilarating. Or maybe they brought those beliefs to the ride in the first place.

Different people form opposite beliefs about the same experience all the time. Which beliefs are true? Neither. Or both. The real question to ask yourself is, “Which beliefs will get me where I want to go in life?” Luckily for you, you get to choose for yourself.

When my son Keenan was seven, we were invited to go paragliding in San Diego. I called his mom and left her a message inviting her to join us at the glider port, when we would jump off a cliff harnessed to an instructor.

Can you tell that I’m a more adventurous parent?

His mom came to watch and almost fainted as our son ran off the cliff harnessed to the instructor, the ocean five hundred feet below. It was the first time paragliding for both my son and me, so I didn’t know what to expect and was a little scared myself.

Keenan’s initial belief was, “Wow! This will be so much fun!” After the experience, his positive belief and perception about heights and paragliding were forever ingrained in his mind. His mom’s first thought was that this would be dangerous, but her negative belief was so rattled by our experience that since then she has expressed a slight desire to try it herself sometime.

Some of our beliefs are formed instantly, such as when a significant emotional experience occurs, while others are formed over time, after several experiences. What’s important to remember is that beliefs aren’t good or bad; they just are. As you already know, you must understand and evaluate the beliefs you have to determine whether or not they’re serving you and helping you create the life you really want.

Lets continue to create that life of your dreams—by starting with the beliefs that will serve you! You can discover more about how to do this with my FREE guide below.

 

Comments

  1. What an awesome experience for your son! And how brave of your wife to silence her own beliefs and fears in order to allow your son to live a life free of those same fears. She stopped those fears from perpetuating to further generations! Yeah Mom!

    Good going Dad, for creating the experience for your son that may very well change future generations of Assaraf’s yet to come!

  2. What an awesome experience for your son! And how brave of your wife to silence her own beliefs and fears in order to allow your son to live a life free of those same fears. She stopped those fears from perpetuating to further generations! Yeah Mom!

    Good going Dad, for creating the experience for your son that may very well change future generations of Assaraf’s yet to come!

  3. Tom Holloway says:

    John, I’m reading the Answer for the 2nd time and it is the best written book ever. “KUDOS.” The great thing is we formulate our own beliefs and we can change them for the better. Thank goodness for “plasticity of the brain.” I’m now putting together the Positive Affirmations to go with the subliminal mood messages. Keep the terrific updated messages flowing. I plan on leaving this world a little when I am called “HOME.”

    Thanks for everything.

  4. Tom Holloway says:

    John, I’m reading the Answer for the 2nd time and it is the best written book ever. “KUDOS.” The great thing is we formulate our own beliefs and we can change them for the better. Thank goodness for “plasticity of the brain.” I’m now putting together the Positive Affirmations to go with the subliminal mood messages. Keep the terrific updated messages flowing. I plan on leaving this world a little when I am called “HOME.”

    Thanks for everything.

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  7. Great story John. I like the new belief system that “we get to choose where we want to be or go in life.”

  8. Great story John. I like the new belief system that “we get to choose where we want to be or go in life.”

  9. vinicio says:

    me gusta mucho recibir sus comentarios ya que estan llenos de mucha iniciativa y realidad que muchos de nosotros no queremos ver porque tenemos una venda en nuestros ojos, espero que mi vida baya cambiando día día, bendiciones Jhon

  10. me gusta mucho recibir sus comentarios ya que estan llenos de mucha iniciativa y realidad que muchos de nosotros no queremos ver porque tenemos una venda en nuestros ojos, espero que mi vida baya cambiando día día, bendiciones Jhon

  11. The Answer, what a great book. I am only half finished and amazing things are happening. I just needed to know why I kept repeating bad habits, I am extremely excited about what is to come. Many thanks to you John, Murray and all who helped with this life changing book.

  12. The Answer, what a great book. I am only half finished and amazing things are happening. I just needed to know why I kept repeating bad habits, I am extremely excited about what is to come. Many thanks to you John, Murray and all who helped with this life changing book.

  13. That’s such an inspirational story, thanks for sharing!

  14. That’s such an inspirational story, thanks for sharing!

  15. When my life was spiralling out of control due to
    my drug addiction. I pretended that everything was
    fine. I tried to deceive myself and others into to
    believing that I didn’t have a problem.

    After it became obvious to one and all that I did
    have a problem. I then went through the process of
    pretending that I was going stop using drugs.
    Again trying to mislead myself and others into
    thinking that I was committed to being drug free.

    You may be thinking why you are telling me this
    Johnny. I am sharing this with you because I don’t
    want you to be a pretender like I was.

    You will never accomplish your goals or live the life
    of your dreams by pretending. You can’t pretend your
    way to success, you can only get there by performing.

    Let me ask you a few questions. Are you giving your
    all at growing your business and becoming financially
    free? Are you doing all you can to ensure you and
    your family will live the life of your dreams?
    Are you committed to your dreams?

    Finally are you pretending or performing? And take
    it from me don’t deceive yourself it never works
    for long.

  16. When my life was spiralling out of control due to
    my drug addiction. I pretended that everything was
    fine. I tried to deceive myself and others into to
    believing that I didn’t have a problem.

    After it became obvious to one and all that I did
    have a problem. I then went through the process of
    pretending that I was going stop using drugs.
    Again trying to mislead myself and others into
    thinking that I was committed to being drug free.

    You may be thinking why you are telling me this
    Johnny. I am sharing this with you because I don’t
    want you to be a pretender like I was.

    You will never accomplish your goals or live the life
    of your dreams by pretending. You can’t pretend your
    way to success, you can only get there by performing.

    Let me ask you a few questions. Are you giving your
    all at growing your business and becoming financially
    free? Are you doing all you can to ensure you and
    your family will live the life of your dreams?
    Are you committed to your dreams?

    Finally are you pretending or performing? And take
    it from me don’t deceive yourself it never works
    for long.