A great story to reflect upon

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.

It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its richness and savored its aroma.

The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity – boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get even better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

 

Comments

  1. what a lovely example of how to look at life

  2. what a lovely example of how to look at life

  3. what a great way to explain how to look at life

  4. what a great way to explain how to look at life

  5. WOW!! This was great!!! I have already sent it to two close friends. Everyone has challenges in life – what make someone great is how they handle them. I will never drink coffee the same.

  6. WOW!! This was great!!! I have already sent it to two close friends. Everyone has challenges in life – what make someone great is how they handle them. I will never drink coffee the same.

  7. Dear John,

    I loved your story. I have been through many challenges in life and with each one I have find that I become more beautiful and true to my higher self. I was married for 20 years. It was a hard marriage. I started out alive and strong but then I became the carrot.Weak Over the years I then became the egg and I didn’t know if I could ever love again. It wasn’t until the end of the 20 years that I was able to recreate myself. I have worked hard to never become the egg again. It isn’t a good place to be and no matter what I go throught I refuse to live with a closed heart. I still face challenges but I have become the love of my life. I feel and enjoy the aroma of my own beauty. The joy of being me.I am the coffee. I believe you helped me answer a question I have been puzzled about. I am 47 and just this year I started drinking coffee for the first time in my life. I have been truly blown away with the fact that I am drinking coffee. I can only say I am the coffee.
    Much love and light

  8. Hi John and everyone,
    Thanks for this blog! This made me realize I may be a bit more “hard-boiled” than I realized..thanks for your insight and inspiration…
    KK

  9. Hi John and everyone,
    Thanks for this blog! This made me realize I may be a bit more “hard-boiled” than I realized..thanks for your insight and inspiration…
    KK

  10. What a wonderful story and tool to help out people in distress, including ourselves and keep thinking positive !!

  11. john assaraf says:

    Glad you enjoyed the story- I reflected myself and loved it.

  12. john assaraf says:

    Glad you enjoyed the story- I reflected myself and loved it.

  13. After I read this I called my 30 year old daughter and read it to her. We both got a lot out of it and I think we realized something about ourselves as well. Both of us have faced much adversity in our lives, both together as mother and daughter and now as seperate women living our own lives. This story found a place on my wall, framed, to remind us to stay the coffee. LOL.
    Thanks for sharing this story with us.

    J

  14. After I read this I called my 30 year old daughter and read it to her. We both got a lot out of it and I think we realized something about ourselves as well. Both of us have faced much adversity in our lives, both together as mother and daughter and now as seperate women living our own lives. This story found a place on my wall, framed, to remind us to stay the coffee. LOL.
    Thanks for sharing this story with us.

    J

  15. loved it I give a 5 I am grateful to read this it helped me thank you with gratitude joan

  16. I loved it,it helped me with gratitude joan

  17. Hi John. Your site is so positive & uplifting, thank you! I would not be the person I am today without the struggles I went through. I believe I needed those lessons in order to get strong & humbled in order to accomplish the things in store for me. πŸ™‚

  18. Catcher says:

    Hi John. Your site is so positive & uplifting, thank you! I would not be the person I am today without the struggles I went through. I believe I needed those lessons in order to get strong & humbled in order to accomplish the things in store for me. πŸ™‚

  19. Hi John,
    Thank you for the great story and outlook. I am going through some pretty tough times with my father soon facing aggressive treatment for Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia. He, as the rest of my family all believe in impacting every thing around us with the most positive outlook possible…. This was just an extra boost when I really needed it.

  20. bbpalmer54 says:

    Hi John,
    Thank you for this wonderfully positve story. It has definitely shifted my energy & has given me a higher perspective to view my life from, appreciating my endurance all the more.I am blessed

  21. Hi John,
    You know you never know how your life may and does touch so many many others! This story was a lesson to me! Lessons although hard sometimes are meant for you to grow and become that wonderful person God meant for you to be!

  22. Thank you! Wonderful!!!

  23. Thank you! Wonderful!!!

  24. john milu truesdale says:

    Hello,
    I am a 50 yr old male. I’ve over come dyslexia, and 15 years of childhood abuse. I am now a writer with a screenplay in development and meeting people in Morgan Freeman’s Revelation Films, Sony Image works VP’s. I was once so insecure that the mere mention of this level of human ( achievement driven story ) would make me stutter, throw up or begin shaking so much it could never happen. They occurred better than me, above the image of myself. I do not have any degrees do to stories that said i was learning disabled and today i am opening my tenth show of my artwork and having conversations with people who once appeared out of reach.
    I haven’t totally conquered the old dis empowering beliefs around abundance but i know that is just around the corner.
    I thank you from the both of my heart for the work you do and the service you provide. Looking forward to purchasing your system as soon as possible.
    Loving life Milu

  25. john milu truesdale says:

    Hello,
    I am a 50 yr old male. I’ve over come dyslexia, and 15 years of childhood abuse. I am now a writer with a screenplay in development and meeting people in Morgan Freeman’s Revelation Films, Sony Image works VP’s. I was once so insecure that the mere mention of this level of human ( achievement driven story ) would make me stutter, throw up or begin shaking so much it could never happen. They occurred better than me, above the image of myself. I do not have any degrees do to stories that said i was learning disabled and today i am opening my tenth show of my artwork and having conversations with people who once appeared out of reach.
    I haven’t totally conquered the old dis empowering beliefs around abundance but i know that is just around the corner.
    I thank you from the both of my heart for the work you do and the service you provide. Looking forward to purchasing your system as soon as possible.
    Loving life Milu

  26. mbard717 says:

    Thank you for a great story and I am saving this for life to share it with anyone that I think needs to hear it! Just like everyone here, I have been through a lot these past few years…I guess I had to become the carrot and the egg in order to realize that for my own well being I have to be that coffee because it does not feel good for yourself or the people around you when you are the carrot or the egg. Thank you!

  27. I wish I’d read this 2 days ago.
    Yesterday i was a Carrot – ALL DAY! I woke up as an Egg this morning and I’m planning on being a big cup of Coffee this afternoon!!!
    Thank you for this article!
    Cath

  28. I wish I’d read this 2 days ago.
    Yesterday i was a Carrot – ALL DAY! I woke up as an Egg this morning and I’m planning on being a big cup of Coffee this afternoon!!!
    Thank you for this article!
    Cath

  29. Karen - Aust says:

    Thank for this amazing story. I have been the carrot. I am not an egg but I am nearing the Coffee, and with this story today will get there even quicker. THANK YOU.

  30. Karen - Aust says:

    Thank for this amazing story. I have been the carrot. I am not an egg but I am nearing the Coffee, and with this story today will get there even quicker. THANK YOU.

  31. lisette savoie says:

    How true,life brings us all kinds of chalanges.I had my share of it.I lost my son of 14 years old in a car crash,the year after I got separated fr my husband of 16years,the year after my dauther of 12 turn to drugs.Now after 18 years,Iam getting remaried with a very caring man getting 2 step daughter.My daughter is douing fine,and i have 2 grand-daugters that I just adore.Life is a struggle but it makes us who we are at the very moment.
    Tank you
    And by the way ,I went from the carot to the boiled egg to the coffe and I am happy and looking forward to the futur.

  32. lisette savoie says:

    How true,life brings us all kinds of chalanges.I had my share of it.I lost my son of 14 years old in a car crash,the year after I got separated fr my husband of 16years,the year after my dauther of 12 turn to drugs.Now after 18 years,Iam getting remaried with a very caring man getting 2 step daughter.My daughter is douing fine,and i have 2 grand-daugters that I just adore.Life is a struggle but it makes us who we are at the very moment.
    Tank you
    And by the way ,I went from the carot to the boiled egg to the coffe and I am happy and looking forward to the futur.

  33. Real magnificent evolution story!Will use it and ff. to (friends)his school and teacher.I wish it would be used in the serious businesslife all together or politics!!And applied too.
    It was good to think differently and seemingly apply it to my own life past present and future!
    this gave me an anwser to a puzzle I am faced right now with and in the perfect time.(Mentally..)
    Bless for the blog and
    thank you for the invite to it!
    Enlightening and uplifting and vice!
    I really liked the end comment to live the life smiling and let the surrounding be crying..even we came in the other way around!!this is good to remember when challenges accour..my first visit to the blog and I found this!!bless!
    Amazing journey this is called life!

  34. That is a great story to learn from and to share with others. I never would have thought that I would like to be like coffee! I probably will not look at a cup of coffee the same way again. It will be a wonderful reminder. Thanks for the story and for the lesson.

  35. nirmala says:

    Its a great story.it gives me self-confidence.thank u!!!

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